Amanda Batula explains her sexless marriage to Kyle Cooke
Amanda Batula revealed on the In the City reunion that she and Kyle Cooke had sex only three times during their four-year marriage — and she blamed a painful combination of depression, emotional neglect, and feeling treated "like an object" rather than a partner. The July 28, 2026 Bravo broadcast gave the clearest picture yet of why their union fell apart.
Key Takeaways
- Amanda Batula and Kyle Cooke had sex just three times during their four-year marriage, which ended in a separation announced in January 2026.
- Batula cited her depression and a lack of emotional intimacy — no dates, no foreplay, no real conversation — as the core reasons.
- Cooke acknowledged responsibility but argued he was working constantly to build their financial future through his Loverboy brand.
- The couple confirmed their divorce is still ongoing, with disputes over belongings, pets, and finances.
- Batula is now dating former castmate West Wilson; neither she nor Wilson will return for Summer House Season 11.
What did Amanda Batula say about why they stopped having sex?
Speaking directly to host Andy Cohen and the assembled cast, celebrity breaking news fixture Amanda Batula was blunt: "I was depressed. Depression will do that." But she made clear the problem started well before her mental health declined.
"I wasn't being courted. There were no dates," she explained. "He would work all day, work all night, then come to bed, tell me to answer an email and then try to have sex with me." She said there was "no foreplay, no emotional intimacy, no conversation" — and that absence left her feeling used. "I felt like I was just an object at that point," she said.
Those feelings, combined with her depression, created what she called "an unfortunate storm" that effectively ended their physical relationship almost as soon as it began after their September 2021 wedding.
How did Kyle Cooke respond to the accusations?
Cooke, 43, did not dispute the timeline. He confirmed the couple had sex approximately three times over four years, and acknowledged to Cohen that he bore responsibility. His defense, however, leaned on his workload building Loverboy: "Every single thing we did, every trip, every getaway — I arranged it. I'm putting in the hours now so we can provide for a family later."
Batula shot back that his solution had been to hand her a book on "how to date an entrepreneur" rather than simply taking her on a date. "You worked really hard for our future," she said, "but it did have an effect on our marriage." Cooke conceded that point, admitting she had been "put on the back burner."
Where do Amanda and Kyle stand on their divorce now?
The pair confirmed on the reunion that divorce proceedings are still active. According to Batula, Cooke responded to her lawyer requesting a "walkaway divorce" — but with conditions attached, including retrieving his belongings from the apartment and resolving shared pet custody. "There's also money stuff," Batula noted; Cooke interjected that he still pays her health insurance.
Meanwhile, Batula has moved on publicly with castmate West Wilson, 31, whom she and Wilson confirmed as a couple in late March 2026. Neither Batula nor Wilson will appear in Summer House Season 11, while Cooke is set to return. For the full paper trail on their split, People.com has the complete reunion breakdown.