Amanda Batula and Kyle explain lack of sex in marriage
Amanda Batula and Kyle Cooke explained on Bravo's "In the City" reunion that they barely had sex during their four-year marriage, blaming depression and Cooke's work focus. The Summer House stars, who split in January, said their intimacy issues started soon after their September 2021 wedding and left both feeling stuck.
Key Takeaways
- Batula cited depression and a lack of emotional intimacy as major factors in their sexless marriage.
- Cooke said the couple had sex only three times during their four years together, and Batula agreed.
- The Bravo stars announced an amicable split in January 2026 and still have not filed for divorce.
- Batula said Cooke's New Year's Day partying was the "nail in the coffin" that ended the marriage.
The candid reunion talk gives fans of celebrity breaking news a clearer look at why the longtime Bravo couple unraveled after years of on-screen romance.
What did Amanda Batula and Kyle say about their sex life?
On Tuesday's "In the City" reunion, Batula, 34, and Cooke, 43, addressed how little intimacy they had while married. According to Page Six, Cooke said they had sex three times during the entire marriage, and Batula nodded in agreement.
Batula blamed depression for part of the disconnect. "I was depressed. Depression will do that," she said. "That was part of it." She also said there was "no emotional intimacy" or "conversation," and that she felt "like an object."
The pair had already revealed at the "Summer House" Season 10 reunion in June that they did not have sex "the entire time" they were married. The latest comments filled in more of the why.
Why did Amanda Batula and Kyle's marriage lose intimacy?
Cooke said the exes "went into a funk" right after their September 2021 wedding, though he "tried for years" to get them into couples therapy. Batula argued that Cooke stopped "courting" her and instead prioritized his Loverboy business and DJ career.
"He would work all day, work all night, then come to bed, tell me to answer an email and then try to have sex with me," she said. "It felt like there was no foreplay."
She added that depression hit amid those pressures: "Then it was just an unfortunate storm." Batula also said Cooke would still go out, leading to big fights, and that she felt "put on the back burner."
When host Andy Cohen pressed him, Cooke took some blame. "One of my issues, like every single thing we ever did, was only because I arranged it," he said, explaining he planned dates and getaways while working toward providing for a future family. Batula replied that his hard work still hurt the relationship, and that his solution was for her "to read a book on how to date an entrepreneur" when she wanted him to take her on a date.
Have Amanda Batula and Kyle filed for divorce yet?
Batula said the final break came on New Year's Day, after Cooke partied all night while she stayed home alone. She then contacted Bravo PR about issuing a split statement. In a January 19 announcement, the pair said they "mutually and amicably decided to part ways as a couple" and asked for grace while they focus on "personal growth and healing."
Page Six reported in May that Batula and Cooke—who did not sign a prenuptial agreement—have not filed for divorce while sorting finances, and that Cooke wants Batula to initiate the process. Batula is now dating Cooke's former pal West Wilson.